He's Just Not That Into You...
A few months ago, I read the book He's Just Not That Into You. One of my friends and I went see the movie shortly after it came out. Over all, I thought the advice in the book wasn't too bad. Don't wait around for some guy who's not worth it.Great! We've all done the incredibly stupid things mentioned in the book at some point even though they seemed so obvious. Everyone needs to be reminded once in awhile.
However,I think the book had its flaws. It stresses not to ever be the instigator. This is the twenty-first century and we are still expected not to ask the guy out...WTH?It also stresses that we are not the exception and drives it home by saying don't listen to stories of those people who actually are. This guy, who doesn't know us is telling us we aren't good enough to be an exception?
If I didn't listen to those that are the exceptions, then I would have to stop talking to most of my friends. I have three friends who were in long terms relationships where they lived with the guy for several years before they were married. Two of them are now married and one is planning their wedding for next summer. I know a girl from high school who asked her now husband out on their first date.
There is a story in the book about the author once calling every person with a certain girl's name in the phone book to reach the right one. Very sweet? If a girl did that it would be considered stalking. Why? What is with the double standards?
My friends call me ballsy. When I see something I want I go after it. Some say that is why these things often don't work out which, of course, is the point behind the book. But shouldn't we be able to be ourselves and have someone accept us for that...
However,I think the book had its flaws. It stresses not to ever be the instigator. This is the twenty-first century and we are still expected not to ask the guy out...WTH?It also stresses that we are not the exception and drives it home by saying don't listen to stories of those people who actually are. This guy, who doesn't know us is telling us we aren't good enough to be an exception?
If I didn't listen to those that are the exceptions, then I would have to stop talking to most of my friends. I have three friends who were in long terms relationships where they lived with the guy for several years before they were married. Two of them are now married and one is planning their wedding for next summer. I know a girl from high school who asked her now husband out on their first date.
There is a story in the book about the author once calling every person with a certain girl's name in the phone book to reach the right one. Very sweet? If a girl did that it would be considered stalking. Why? What is with the double standards?
My friends call me ballsy. When I see something I want I go after it. Some say that is why these things often don't work out which, of course, is the point behind the book. But shouldn't we be able to be ourselves and have someone accept us for that...
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